Gradually Falling Apart

i wasnt made to be perfect, but at least i learnt from so many previous failures that now im a better person for everything..The past was a learning experience, i pulled thru so much just to get better each day.. yet there are some ppl who pulls me down and made me feel worse..so much about understanding and not knowing each other well.. What has it gotta do with my past?? your past?? if past matters so much to the person loving you, then whats love for anyway? its to live, to love, to forgive and to forget. Why in a relationship ppl tend to use the terms I and YOU more often then WE, US, OUR.. its the togetherness that keeps love alive, but yet its forgotten..i wasnt once selfish in this r/s.. and i will never be unless i see the need to.. i admit i was selfish, self centered, unreasonable, bad tempered in my past r/s..but all that has changed, im a changed person.. and i couldnt even believe how calm i was when we quarrelled..everytime i wanted to flare up, i thought about his feelings, how will he react if i reacted the same way i did years ago..it would be throwing of chairs and tables, punching whatever i can find, kicking dustbins and smashing things ard and even hurling all sorts of words towards him.. i dint.. i kept my cool even thou how much it hurts..and i really wonder who knows the changes i've made. it seems ppl only notices my flaws..but nt my improvements.